melissaL

Melissa Lawver

About Melissa Lawver

This author has not yet filled in any details.
So far Melissa Lawver has created 12 blog entries.

Don’t let shame block you from your potential to love and be loved

Say Goodbye to Shame—Learn to Accept Yourself

It pays to take a closer look at the hard to spot and very overwhelming feeling of shame, but it is so worth it.

Don’t let shame block you from your potential to love and be loved.

Join us to learn what shame is, where it comes from and how to overcome it.
June 17th 9 to 12 at the Compass Center.
RSVP to info@his-story.org $30 if you pay ahead, $35 if you pay at the door.
Women 16 and up welcome.
Brunch included.  Some partial scholarships available

By |May 18th, 2017|Categories: Uncategorized||Comments Off on Don’t let shame block you from your potential to love and be loved

Say Goodbye to Shame – Learn to Accept Yourself

 

“I’m not good enough.”

“I don’t measure up.”

“It’s all my fault.”

You’ll never feel good enough until you deal with the source of these thoughts–shame.  Join us to learn what shame is, where it comes from and how to overcome it.

June 17th 9 to 12 at the Compass Center.
RSVP to info@his-story.org $30 if you pay ahead, $35 if you pay at the door.
Women 16 and up welcome.
Brunch included.  Some partial scholarships available.  .

By |May 8th, 2017|Categories: Blog||Comments Off on Say Goodbye to Shame – Learn to Accept Yourself

Melissa and Bonnie Preview Our Next Workshop!

Melissa and Bonnie Preview the next workshop:

Our conversation will cover…
What healthy boundaries are
How to develop and maintain your boundaries
The skills to communicate your boundaries to others
When
Saturday, April 22, 9 am to 12 pm
Where
Compass Center, room 310-312 4201 Pool Road Grapevine, 76051
Cost
$30 if you pay in advance, $35 if you pay at the event.
Partial scholarships available. Brunch included!
RSVP
817-906-1111 or info@his-story.org

By |April 11th, 2017|Categories: Blog||Comments Off on Melissa and Bonnie Preview Our Next Workshop!

Where Do I Draw the Line? A Boundaries Workshop for Women

 

Do you say yes when you want to say no? You may have loose relational boundaries.

Do you find it difficult to trust others and let them in? You may have rigid boundaries!

Loose boundaries give other people too much control over your life.

While rigid boundaries keep you from the relationships you desire.

If you want to learn flexible healthy boundaries, this workshop is for you!

Where Do I Draw the Line?  A Boundaries Workshop for Women

When: Saturday, April 22nd 9 am to 12 pm

Where: Compass Center, room 310-312 4201 Pool Road Grapevine, 76051

Cost: $30 in advance, $35 at the door. Partial scholarships available.  Brunch included.

 

By |March 29th, 2017|Categories: Blog||Comments Off on Where Do I Draw the Line? A Boundaries Workshop for Women

Where Do I Draw the Line? – Learn to Set Healthy Boundaries Workshop for Women

Do you find the same difficult situations come up over and over in your life? Are these situations causing you frustration, stress and resentment in your relationships? Do you want to learn healthy ways to respond to create an environment where good things are more likely? Join us for this workshop to understand how to set boundaries as God intended and learn where to draw the line in your relationships!When: Saturday, April 22, 9 am to 12 pm Where: Compass Center, room 310-312 4201 Pool Road Grapevine, 76051Cost: $30 if you pay in advance, $35 if you pay at the event.   Partial scholarships available. Brunch included!RSVP: 817-906-1111 or info@his-story.org

By |March 8th, 2017|Categories: Blog||Comments Off on Where Do I Draw the Line? – Learn to Set Healthy Boundaries Workshop for Women

Honoring Others: Creating Connectedness

Have you ever felt frustrated because you believe someone you love doesn’t understand what you are communicating? This can ignite a fire of anger and hurt feelings because we long for the other person to “understand” our point of view.  However, often we are actually trying to get them to agree with us rather than understand, and that is why we become frustrated. We confuse lack of agreement as meaning the person doesn’t understand us.

We operate under the mistaken belief that if we just state our case clearly enough or with enough conviction, then they will agree with us.

This confusion between agreeing and understanding fuels many relationship problems.  However, what if agreement is not the ultimate goal?   Is it possible to understand someone’s position, yet disagree with their line of thinking?   The answer is yes, we can disagree but understand.  However, understanding is not often enough to put out the fire, but honor is. When we honor someone we give their thoughts and feelings value, even if we don’t agree.  Essentially, we communicate, although I disagree, I will honor you by honoring your request.   So this may look like doing a task that you don’t agree needs to be done, but honoring the person with the action anyways.   It might be not engaging in something a loved one sees as harmful to them or you.   No matter how it takes place, honoring the other is the solution because it values the other person. Understanding followed by honoring the others thoughts can extinguish the flames and create more connectedness.

By |May 4th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Featured, Uncategorized||1 Comment

Change Starts with You!

 

 

If you have been married longer than a day, you have probably found yourself blaming your spouse from some issue in your marriage.  It is easy to get into the trap of thinking,“If only he would________, then I would __________.”  You can fill in the blanks with any issue or problem, and the formula will yield the same result: no result.  The “if only” mindset leaves you focused on the issue and what you believe are the problems in your spouse and keep you stuck in a cycle of frustration and stagnation.

However, there is hope!  You just need a new formula.  Instead of “if only he would_____________, then I would_____________,” formula, try “I will _____________.”  The truth is change starts with you!   If you will begin to focus on your behavior and take responsibility for what you are responsible for, you can begin to create change in yourself, which can lead to change in your marriage.  Try thinking of one thing that you can do different today.  Maybe you can stop rolling your eyes, or pick up your mess without commenting on his.  No matter how small the behavioral change, focus on you.   Change starts with you!

If you or your spouse are interested in learning more skills to help improve the quality of your marriage, consider coming to the 7 Principles That Make Marriage Work  workshop on February 13th from 9 to 12 in the Compass Center.  For more info on the event, see the Workshop tab on our website.

By |February 1st, 2016|Categories: Blog, Featured, Uncategorized||Comments Off on Change Starts with You!

The Greatest Gift

 

Christmas is almost here. As you read, many of you are anticipating what you will open on Christmas morning, hoping at least one of the gifts from your list will be there.  Some of you are awaiting the grinning faces of your children opening gifts that you dutifully and joyfully purchased and wrapped.   While others know there will be no gifts under the tree this year, or maybe no tree at all.

The truth is none of this matters.  Now, don’t get me wrong. I believe that Christmas matters, but the gifts don’t.  The gifts that can come under a tree, are only things.  You can have all the things in the world or no things at all and be empty.  Whether you are rich or poor, you have a family to celebrate with or no family at all, and no matter how many gifts you will give or receive.  I want you to consider this simple truth.  The greatest gift has already been given. It is the person of Jesus.   Who, in all of his majesty and glory was born from a virgin’s womb, sent to the Earth by God the Father to live, die, and resurrect to save us all.  That is the greatest gift of Christmas.

This Christmas, I want you to focus on this great gift, Jesus.   Have you received this gift?   Does your life show the evidence of having received this gift?   How can you share this gift with someone else this Christmas?  Let Jesus change everything this Christmas.  Let him quiet your mind, fill your heart and be fully present with him in this moment. The greatest gift will fill you with joy in spite of your Christmas circumstances.   Soak up […]

By |December 23rd, 2015|Categories: Blog, Featured, Uncategorized||Comments Off on The Greatest Gift

Practicing Presence in the Season of Presents

Let’s face it, there is a lot of noise at Christmas!

Go into a store, and you will hear the noise. The bells ringing outside remind you to donate money. Christmas carols blaring keep you cheery so you will buy more gifts, and the voice of children and adults rattle off their Christmas lists. But that’s just the external noise.

The louder noise plays out in our hearts and minds, the noise of past pain, perhsps the loss of loved one or Christmas wishes that never came true. Past pain tells you“there isn’t hope,” “you can’t get over it,” or “I will always feel sad”…noise.

Then there is the noise of expectation, that little voice in your heads that compares your Christmas to the Christmas of those around you. This voice whispers lies like, “Their family is happier than mine.” “They bought their kids better presents than I did.” This voice, drives you toward whatever you think is ideal, but leaves you feeling deflated when you aren’t able to keep up with Jones’.

And there is also the noise of busyness. “I have to go to the holiday party.” “I have to wrap all the presents.” “I have to decorate the house.” The list goes on. The noise of busyness fills our minds with a long list of “to dos” that keep up distracted, tired, and numb.

With all this external and internal noise, it is difficult be present in the moment during the Christmas season. Past pain, expectations, and busyness pull you out of the present and keep you disengaged from the moment.

When you are listening to all this noise, you don’t truly connect with God, yourself or others, and it is easy to become stressed and depressed by […]

By |December 11th, 2015|Categories: Blog, Featured, Uncategorized||Comments Off on Practicing Presence in the Season of Presents

Holidaze!

As we approach the holiday season, it is easy to get bogged down with the stress of shopping, attending holiday parties, and meeting the expectations of family and friends.  We can easily become hurried, frazzled and down right agitated by what we perceive as the pressure of the holidays.  If we are not careful, the holidays turn into a holidaze!  However, with a few guiding principles, you can lower your holiday stress this season.

1) Set realistic expectations for yourself.  Perfectionism is especially rampant during the holidays as many us try to create the “ideal” for every aspect of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years.  However, if you start off with healthy expectations, you can really reduce your stress.   Pick three things this season that are really important to you and focus on making only those things excellent, not perfect.   Let go of the rest!

2) Let yourself say no!   Many of us are guilty of saying yes to everything and everyone because we want to keep everyone happy.  The trouble is when you say yes to everything you end up exhausted and burnt out.  Instead of everyone being happy, you and those around are disappointed because it is impossible to keep everyone happy!  This holiday season, practice saying no out of love for yourself and others.  Ask yourself these questions to help you know what to say no to:  1) Am I saying yes out of guilt to make another person happy?  If the answer is yes, change it to no!  2) Is this event/thing a priority for me or a close loved one? If it is not a priority, say no! 3) Will saying yes deplete or increase my energy and ability to love God, myself […]

By |November 23rd, 2015|Categories: Blog, Featured, Uncategorized||Comments Off on Holidaze!